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Monday, November 2, 2026

Trick Or Treat, welcomed, or banned, with posters, and Christmas carol callers

 The UK supermarkets are full of candies in multi-packs to distribute for trick or treat. Alongside are soft toys with pumpkins and skeleton motifs.

Tricks

Scary faces

Update, from November 3-5th 2026:

 Don't be scared. It's only me. Photo by Angela Lansbury.
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The Day of the Dead is big in Mexico. This is a mask I was given to try on at The World Travel Market at Excel in London, November 3rd to 5th 2026.

Trick or treat? Let's look at who is for it, and who is against it. 

House display in Hatch End, London, England. Photo by Angela Lansbury.

Treats

Halloween displays in Tesco Express, Hatch End, London, England, UK. Photo by Angela Lansbury.


Halloween display at Tesco Express in London, England, UK. Photo by Angela Lansbury.

Who Is For Trick Or Treat?

Many families with children. A way to call on your neighbours. A chance to decorate houses and dress up the adults and children. The treat could be a donation from a pile of sweets. 

What is against it?. Buying treats costs money. Making treats costs money and time. If you are inundated with callers, you run out, then you are at the mercy of tricks.

Unwelcome Tricks

Why would anybody want a trick? Tricks include throwing eggs over the window, which you have to clean off. Daubing paint. Damage to property. People with skulls jumping out or making a noise. Frightening the elderly who are prone to heart attacks.

How It Was Done In Singapore?

When I lived in Singapore, when I first arrived in the 1990s, I was told that it was illegal to knock on people's doors, whether for Trick or Treat, to ask for donations for money, whether for charity, or begging or to offer services, and to try to convert people to another religion. So the Mormons would be banned from knocking on doors. Was that in the old days when Christian missionaries had tried to convert the local people to Christianity? Then the locals were mainly Chinese with areas of Muslims and Hindu Indians. 

The main objections, I was told, came from the Chinese, because in their religion the eldest son (who is the oldest and most likely to be working and earning money) was responsible for organizing the funeral of the parents, according to their religious ritual, which would help them in the afterlife. When the eldest son was converted to Christianity or another religion, he no longer was willing to perform the rights, depriving the parents of their respect and safe passage into the afterlife and eternity. A law was therefore passed to forbid this.

Now, having heard this, I could understand why you needed to convert the entire family to avoid conflict, not just because parents might not like the clothes, routines, food of a son or daughter in law, but because their own funeral, burial and afterlife would be affected.

Therefore, I was told, the law was brought in banning people knocking on doors. Also, many families had a maid who answered the door. She was a young person, with a busy work schedule, looking after a baby, with little or no money, used to obeying order, vulnerable to deceit. Knocking on a door to collect for charity or offer a service was an easy excuse or cover for somebody trying to case the joint, see if anybody was in, deceive the servant or young person answering the door and gain access to the property for theft.

I later learned something different about the cause of laws and customs in Singapore, which you will see in the next post. However, this is what I was told at that time.

As a result, of this belief, I was told that children at the nearby expat school, probably the American school, had issued posters for the parents to display. This had the school name and symbols, the phone number to ring if there was a problem (for either called or those called on) a and a message saying that the school's own pupils were welcome to trick or treat. 

Unaccompanied Children Ban

The next thing which caught my attention was parents telling me that unaccompanied children were not allowed to go trick or treating. They might not have the sense to know that what they were doing was dangerous or scary for the householder or themselves. They were not legally liable for damage or pranks gone wrong. Their testimony in a court of law might not be considered reliable. 

When I lived in the USA, one year I read that some areas of some cities had banned trick or treat, because children had come home with sweets which were bad tasting, poisoned, or contained damaging metal.

USA memories

In that era, the 1990s, I read of cases of children in the USA invited into homes by householders offering treats. The children were assaulted. Or disappeared. 

Posters In London

Now in 2026 in London, the police have issued downloadable posters which have texts asking people not to call for trick or treat. there are several reasons why people might decline.

Firstly religious. Secondly financial. You might not be able to afford to buy treats, and not want the embarrassment of admitting to others that you were hard up, or that you were poor,  or you might not want the financial drain, or it could cause family rows if one person wanted to join in, or thought it was necessary to avoid trouble, whilst another objected to their money being spent that way. It could cause illwill between neighbours and local people.

Some people say you should not need a poster. Etiquette says you only call at houses with Halloween decorations. But why should people who put up decorations for their own visitors or children for a party be constantly disturbed by others knocking on the door demanding free sweets? 

The elderly might have trouble reaching the door, with sticks, wheelchairs, or deaf people. They might be in fear of people playing tricks if you did not give treats.

Other might not want to open doors on principle.

Some people instead leave out a bowl of sweets. But the first comer, or a greedy adult, might take the lot. You would have to be alert all day and evening, maybe all weekend, to give out just enough sweets for a group of callers. 

But what if five, ten or twenty people call wanting sweets? Then another group?

If I am watching TV, working from home, or just reading the news and face timing or zoom calling with my family, I don't want to have to get up to answer the door to callers. The same applies to Christmas carollers asking for money.

Some people have a blanket sign on a poster. No callers please.

People in my street had such a sign. The wife had muscular dystrophy and difficulty walking to the door. But to callers and neighbours it looked like the householders were bad tempered and unfriendly.

The same applied during Covid, before, and after. Some people, if they were cautious, or had vulnerable health, did not want callers, even touching their doorbell and knocker and door or gate.

If you put up a poster, you have to pay the cost of the printer and ink and time to print it and fix it. If the government prints so called 'free' posters, it means the poster is free to the recipient but somebody else is paying for the printing. In effect, everybody's local taxes are spent on printing the posters.

In conclusion, I think the Singapore system is the best. Neither home owner, renters, guests, or police, or local or national governments should have to print signs saying  Trick or treaters, and carol singers, are not welcome. nor should only call at houses where signs say that callers are welcome. Instead, the onus should be on people to arrange in advance that schools and other organizations should plan a route around welcoming homes or buildings. To avoid confusion as to homes, buildings and numbers, callers should only stop at houses which have signs welcoming people from a particular school, or organization, or all comers.

In London parents in a street Whatsapp group asked who would welcome trick or treaters. A few people replied that they would welcome them. A couple more said, no thank you.

Now that Halloween is over, similar questions arise over carol singers calling to collect for charity.

Useful Websites About No Trick Or Treat, Carol Singers, Charity Collectors

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Trick-Treats-Thank-You-Halloween/dp/B00OE5FHIM

No trick or treat sign

https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/363112132268?

Kent Police Sign About Trick Or Treat

https://www.kent.police.uk/SysSiteAssets/media/downloads/kent/campaigns/halloween-and-fireworks/trick_or_treat_poster_no.pdf

Message to Parents & Carers On Trick Or Treat

https://www.westmidlands.police.uk/news/west-midlands/news/news/2026/october/trick-or-treating-safely---a-message-to-parents-and-carers/

https://www.dailymail.com/news/article-16251917/trick-treat-posters-councils-police-religious-beliefs.html

No junk mail sign, solid plaque

https://www.amazon.co.uk/County-Engraving-Engraved-CHARITY-LEAFLETS/dp/B07Q3Y4VN6

Dangerous Candies

https://www.dailymail.com/health/article-16272907/psilocybin-gummies-children-halloween-san-diego.html

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See next post.

Sunday, January 26, 2020

Coronavirus update Sunday 26 2020.





Flag of China.

Sunday. Death toll in China is 55.

China has banned travel into and out of Wuhan province (a large area like a US state) and most travel around the area.

The Coronavirus is a family of viruses including the common cold, SARS and MERS.
Sars in 2002-3 killed 800.
MERS (Middle Eastern virus) killed 700.

Elderly and Young
So far, in 2020, the latest version has killed mainly those over the age of 50, except one case.

Some commentators shrug. It's only the elderly. And the young.

I read about one family. An extended family who had travelled back to China. When they left they were ok. Now the grandparents and grandchildren are all sick. Imagine being a grandparent, wondering if you will die and if you have infected your grandchildren.

Imagine being in the middle, having your parents and children all ill. Imagine being a child. You don't know whether you will live You don't know if your grandparents will live. Your parents are dividing their time between you and the others of you, two siblings and two grandparents.

You cannot travel. You cannot work. Everybody is quarantined.

Spanish Flu 1918
The 1918 Spanish flu killed more people than WWI. 500 million were affected and more than 50 million died.

It killed the young, who had no immunity.

One of my ancestors died of it. He was in South Africa. He was a young married man who jumped up from his sick bed and ran downstairs to answer the phone call from his sister (my granny Hetty) who was in London. He dropped dead.

His wife never remarried. After her sister-in-law, my granny, had died, my mother kept up correspondence. Eventually my mother went to South Africa to visit the now elderly widow.

I look online and read that somebody I know has a cold.

I wonder. Is it just a cold?

I hope they keep following instructions. Wash your hands. Do not touch your eyes and face with your hands.

Keep away from crowds and people who are coughing.

Carry tissues and/or wear a mask.

Useful Wbsites
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spanish_flu
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coronavirus
https://en.wikivoyage.org/wiki/Singapore

About the Author
Angela Lansbury, travel writer and photographer, author and speaker.


Wednesday, July 24, 2019

Safe Depth in Swimming Pools At Home And On Holiday

Olympic size swimming pool at a condo in Singapore. Photo by Angela Lansbury. Copyright.

Stay In The Shallow End
On Singapore's escalators in the MRT stations you hear recorded messages: 'When travelling with young children or the elderly, use the lifts.' At swimming pools it would be helpful to warn 'keep to the shallow end' in similar circumstances.

Sometimes safety instructions are given on notice boards. But frequently only in English.

Pool Depth 1.7 metres, about 5 foot nine inches. Photo by Angela Lansbury. Copyright.

Depths
Depths are usually marked. But only in metres. 1.4 metres is about 5 foot. If you are five foot tall or less the water comes to the top of your head at this point. You need to stay further away. I test depth by moving along the side of the pool holding onto the edge. As soon as it gets too deep, I note the foliage or buildings or parts of buildings which I can see alongside as a marker, then move back to the safe point. That is my limit.

1.7 metres is about 5 foot 9 ins. You can check your height. But you don't want to be in water up to your height. That is too high. Check the height to your neck with a ruler or a metal measuring device.

You can find private pools in hotels and condos all over Singapore.

Some hotel pools are open to non-residents for a day or visitor fee. Might not be worth paying if you are only there for coffee or lunch, but if you are all day visiting overseas relatives could be worthwhile.

Other private pools are in clubs such as The American Club and The Tanglin Club. If you have a family member or friend they can take you in but they have to pay a fee.

Public pools are all over Singapore. the more modern ones have children's pools and chutes and diving boards and swimming lessons which you can book.

Useful Websites
https://www.rapidtables.com/convert/length/meter-to-inch.html
SINGAPORE AIRLINE
singaporeair.com

http://www.changiairport.com/en/airport-guide/facilities-and-services/swimming-pool-with-jacuzzi.html

About the author

Friday, November 23, 2018

How To Unlock A Circular Door Handle

You should be able to release it here.
If granny or a visitor or a child cannot work out how to open the door with the central pushbutton, or if they faint or are injured, this is the point where you insert something to release the lock. Unfortunately it didn't work for us. The lock was broken. (See previous post.)

Door handle release point. Photo by Angela Lansbury. Copyright.


Angela Lansbury, travel writer and blogger, photographer, and speaker.
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Friday, July 20, 2018

Alarm systems for the frail elderly

You can get alarms for the elderly, those living alone, anybody.

Some are like a keychain. Another kind is a watch, so you cannot put it down or be without it.

Quite, handy, so that even if you tumbled into a ditch out of sight, you could be heard by somebody passing by?

Some systems charge you a monthly fee. Why is this? Depending on the system, it could be because the organizers are employing staff at a call centre to monitor the emergency calls and ensure somebody such as a relative or carer is sent to rescue you.

Some local authorities issue alarms to elderly or frail poeple living on their own and prone to falls or fainting. People who have low incomes or are on behefits might qualify for a reduced price or free device from the local authority.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=personal+alarm&index=aps&tag=googhydr-21&ref=pd_sl_5ozrq4q5tw_e&adgrpid=55794723320&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=259083185977&hvpos=1t1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=12692263582347056461&hvqmt=e&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9045970&hvtargid=kwd-11297411

https://safepersonalalarm.com/safety/girl-uk.php?affId=CB771A3E&c1=uk&c2=comp_45-65unk_all_trag&gclid=EAIaIQobChMInMLizfKt3AIVKqJRCh1Ttwf7EAEYASAAEgLRKfD_BwE

Sunday, July 23, 2017

Welsh, Words, "Would Like" What to say in Welsh, Why Visit Wales and Ireland



View of Fishguard Bay, Wales. Photo by Angela Lansbury. Copyright.

Wedding at Fishguard Bay Hotel.
Problem
How do you say I would like in Welsh? This is a problem when translating from English into any other language.

Answer
I am learning Welsh from Duo Lingo. Their simple English-Welsh lessons often give alternative answers but they gave the Welsh which I translated as I would like which was not allowed. I wondered whether the Welsh had only one phrase, in which case my alternative should have been allowed. However, according to somebody who replied in the forum, the Welsh English goes like this.
  • Hoffwn i... - I would like...
  • Dw i eisiau... - I want...
If you want to hear how it is pronounced, go to www.Duolingo.

Story
Children of today speak simply and more directly.
For example:
How are you? to an elderly person requires the answer
Very well, thank you.
A young person says
Fine.
That sounds terribly rude to an older person.

Why Learn Welsh Words?
Why would anybody want, or need, or like, to speak or understand Welsh?
If you drive or take the train across Wales, you will see many signs in Welsh. Why not take a few free language lessons?

Why Go To Wales?
Writers' Holiday
Many of my friends are going to the Writers Holiday in Fishguard, Wales, this week. You can book for a week or be a day visitor.

History and Films
Fishguard is also the setting for many movies or films from the past such as Moby Dick and Dylan Thomas's Under Milk Wood, starring Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton.

You can read about the making of the films in the bar of the Fishguard Bay Hotel which is above the port where you catch the ferry to Ireland.

Ireland And Wales
Some people go through Wales because they need to in order to get the ferry to Ireland. You might do so deliberately in order to Enjoy and two destination trip to both Wales and Ireland.

Tourist Information
www.visitWales.com
www.wales.com
www.gofishguard.co.uk/
http://www.writersholiday.net
http://www.directferries.co.uk/fishguard_rosslare_ferry.
http://www.directferries.co.uk/ferries_from_wales_to_ireland. (Choosing which ferry route.)
http://www.irishtourist.com/wexford/towns/rosslare/
www.duolingo.com (Welsh, Gaelic, English for speakers of other languages, other languages)
I have several other posts on Wales and learning Welsh. Please share links to your favourite posts.

Author
Angela Lansbury, travel writer and photographer, author and speaker.



Sunday, November 24, 2013

Vancouver's Ban On Door Knobs

What starts in America spreads to London and worldwide. Vancouver city council plans to ban circular door knobs and install horizontal levers because they are easier for the elderly.
The elderly population is increasing in the affluent countries. (In the newer, poorer countries, with high birth and death rates, the youngsters have ten children and the average age is under thirty. In the USA, UK and Japan, there are more elderly people and in years to come there will be still more. Back to door knobs.
I was fed up with catching my sleeves and cuffs belts and dressing gown belts anything else projection or trailing caught on levers. I was about to change lever handles to knobs. Now I shall reconsider. A half way solution is the same as taps. You can have circular one if they have indents you can grasp. But I have found lever taps much better. Less likely to be left half on dripping or turned off so tightly that you cannot turn them on.