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Sunday, November 12, 2023

Helplines For The Stressed and Distressed While Travelling or At Home

Beach Head Suicide prevention phone. (Wiki)


 Every country has helplines for those who are depressed or distressed.

Useful Websites

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Samaritans_(charity)

See the Straits Times.

Helplines

Mental well-being

  • Institute of Mental Health’s Mental Health Helpline: 6389-2222 (24 hours)
  • Samaritans of Singapore: 1800-221-4444 (24 hours) /1-767 (24 hours)
  • Singapore Association for Mental Health: 1800-283-7019
  • Silver Ribbon Singapore: 6386-1928
  • Tinkle Friend: 1800-274-4788 
  • Chat, Centre of Excellence for Youth Mental Health: 6493-6500/1
  • Women’s Helpline (Aware): 1800-777-5555 (weekdays, 10am to 6pm)

Counselling

  • TOUCHline (Counselling): 1800-377-2252
  • TOUCH Care Line (for seniors, caregivers): 6804-6555
  • Care Corner Counselling Centre: 6353-1180
  • Counselling and Care Centre: 6536-6366

Online resources

UK

see wiki

USA

see wiki

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Friday, September 27, 2019

Vital Products from Vitafoods: The Exotic Jute Ashwagandha Bag and Its Erotic Promises


Singapore flag.

The show is about manufacturing and marketing healthy foods and products from packaging and sales of ingredients to finished products. On day two of the Vitafoods Asia show I arrived early and in time to get the jute bag donated by Ashwagandha.

I had missed out on getting the bag on day one.

The bag says:
Clinically Proven to Help
Reduce Stress ... (The previous day I could have done with that)
Improve Memory ... (I could have done with that)
Improve endurance ... (Yes, I needed that)
I was about to ask if they could prove all this when I read the last on the list:
Enhance Sexual Function ... and testosterone in Men

I decided not to go back to their stand and ask for proof.

The show was all about food, fortified food, nutrition, health and wellness.

Next year's show in Asia is 23rd and 24th September 2020. If you are looking to promote your product, find a distributor, source a service or select packaging, this is the place to be promoting your product or service on a stand or go as a visitor looking for potential partners.

Over in Europe:
Vivitafoods Europeta Foods Europe
Tuesday to Thursday 12-14 May 2020
Palexpo, Route Francois-Peyrot 30
1218 Le Grand-Saconne
Swisse (Switzerland)
email:info@palexpo.ch
Tel:+41 22 761 11 11

Useful Websites
www.palexpo.ch
https://www.vitafoodsasia.com/en/welcome.html
singaporeair.com

Author
Angela Lansbury, travel writer and photographer, author and speaker. Please share links to your favourite posts.

Wednesday, January 31, 2018

Travel Or Stay At Home, Drive And Live stress-free

Problem
I can't drive when I'm stressed. Just as well. If you are distracted, you are likely to have an accident. So I always calm myself before getting behind the wheel or taking a journey. Some people like to travel.

Others feel nervous. I get anxious just before I leave the house. To my astonishment, a very organized and much travelled person told me he feels the same.

Calming
I have a glass of water. I go to the toilet. I wear comfy shoes. If I need a pick-me-up, maybe eat or take with me a biscuit or chocolate bar or banana.

Loving The Past
Tell your life story, only the good bits.
1Your lovely family.
2 Your favourite childhood toy.
3 Your great discovery.

Pick three small things you love about your home or your clothes or yourself.
1 Your favourite dress.
2 Your favourite cup(s).
3 Your chair or curtians.
4 The view, the garden, the birds, the busy, lively street.

The weather
The sun is shining today. Bright green grass. Blue sky.

Optimism
Write down three things you are looking forward to - such as
holidays,
day trips,
restaurants,
seeing friends.
(If you have time, phone a friend. Note 3 good things to tell them about. Find three amusing things in the news. Three medical breakthroughs.)

A mother of small children has devised a system which worked for her, to help others.

A Diary
I keep a travel diary. You could divide it into three columns. Two for good things. One for mishaps which make amusing sotries or speeches.

Anne Frank went nowhere, but managed to write a diary. If you have the internet, you are never short of news and travel stories.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-5333755/Is-key-unlocking-happiness.html
www.resetthp.co.uk

Author
Angela Lansbury, travel writer and photographer, author and speaker.

Tuesday, January 16, 2018

En Bloc Sale: What Is It? What Does It Mean For You And Me?

Problem
You rent a flat in Singapore. You are told that it is under en bloc sale? What could this mean?

Answers
En bloc sale means that every owner in the block sells so that the land can be redeveloped. We lived in one block which was under en bloc sale.

Why Sell?
The requirement at that time was for a minimum of 80% of owners to agree to sell. Why would anybody sell? Because you could make a lot of money. The en bloc sale organises it all and finds the buyer. All you have to do is sign and agree to their terms of sale. You make a huge profit. You can be sure of a buyer even if your property is run down, old, got insects or dry rot or things which need fixing - the whole thing is being pulled down anyway.

Renter's View
From a renter's point of view we found it was a disaster short term. As a renter you have no protection. If the owner wants to sell, or 80% of those in the block want to sell, you have to move.

Moving Problems
Short-term - disaster. Disruption. Every move we have made has resulted in things being broken, lost, or sold off cheaply, thrown away, because the member of the family in charge of moving has to make a quick decision.

Price Problems
You may have to move further from the center of the city to get a property at the price you are able to pay. In Singapore we have moved from the centre to far out. We had a very stressful time looking.

First we looked at the east coast near the airport and the beaches. Dreadful buildings, no lift, steep outside stairs, blocks like prisons. We found our dream place in the less expensive North West - Olympic size swimming pool - but in the middle of nowhere. However, a new MRT railway station was being built within six months.

We had to fly back from overseas in a hurry to move at an inconvenient time. You miss a hospital appointment, or a birthday, or business meeting, or radio or TV appearance, because you are moving that day.

Moving is considered one of the major stresses in life. It can tip you into a stress-related illness.

Against Selling
Why would you not sell? Because you have lived there a long time, or only just moved into your dream home, and you don't want the inconvenience and disruption of moving, the cost or moving, losing your neighbours and friends, not being able to get something so large because new build homes have lower ceilings and smaller rooms.

I was told that if you had just under the 80%, the last owner or two might refuse to sell, even though they wanted to sell, because they were 'greedy'. They would not agree until they were offered a financial incentive by one of the buyers or sellers.

This is only to set you thinking about what you want to find out. Please ask your property agent or lawyer for the latest legislation and circumstances in your area.

In London, I wanted to sell and move somewhere larger and near my son's new school. I found one house. But it had structural problems (rot). Then I found another, near a station, but spooky and deserted by trees at night. Finally, I found a new place. The selling agent for my property had promised I would get a great price for my property. The asking price for the new one was above my selling price but the difference was achievable with savings. I could not get a mortgage (self-employed).

My mother had always warned:
1 Don't take a mortgage - you could lose your home.
2 Buy before you sell. Otherwise, if the home you want is taken away you have no home.

She was proved right. I made a full price offer on my dream home to be sure of getting it. The agent selling my home had a keen buyer. However, the buyer was only keen if he could get a bargain. After several days of delay, he finally made an offer well under my asking price. I could not make the difference (between my selling price and my buying price) so the move fell through.

On the latest proposed sale I have heard:

Against The En Bloc Sale
"You will never find anything like this. Not at the price you get. Not at any price. We have an Olympic size pool, four tennis courts, two gyms, a meeting hall, spa jets, a sauna, a children's pool with fountains and a slide, children's playground, adult outdoor exercise, a grocery shop, hairdresser, a snack restaurant, parking, large rooms with high ceilings."

Locationwise, we are walking distance of two railway stations, a bus stop outside, view across to the hills. Trains to the city centre every three minutes. A busy low price shopping centre one stop away. An upmarket, elegant quiet shopping centre one stop in the opposite direction.

One man, against the sale, has a friend with a larger condo at the top of the block. "I say to him, you get big money, la."

What if you have the penthouse, the top floor?  He gets enough to look anywhere. "Correct. There are lovely places overlooking the sea at Marina Bay. But you don't get those for three million. More like five million!"

For The En Bloc Sales
This is what I heard when I asked a resident:
"Greedy people are holding out for even more money. But if you don't take this offer, you might not get another offer for another five years."

Get on with it. At the recent meeting, I was told, those who disagreed who asked to leave. Those who agreed were asked to 'sign on the spot.

A resident told me"
"We have lots of owners who are happy to go outside Singapore."
I asked, "Australia?"
"No. Malaysia. You can buy a nice house in Malaysia for that money, in fact you can buy two."
I know lots of people with two places in Singapore, or Malaysia. In one case the wife has one in Singapore, while the husband owns one in Malaysia.  "One to live in, one to rent for an income."

Neutral
An elderly resident told me: "I let them get on with it. Go with the flow. I If they want to sell, they will sell. I don't even bother going to meetings."

Another view:
When they sell this en bloc, several hundred people will be looking for new homes in Singapore, some in this area. Prices of what you want to buy will go up.

Freehold and Leasehold
This is freehold. The new flats will be leasehold. Nothing to leave your grandchildren.

Freehold property value stays up.

Once you get to the last twenty years of a freehold nobody wants to buy.
The value of your leasehold property goes down every two decades.

Affect On Local Residents
Lastly, local residents are not happy. It will be two years of noise pile-driving, water supplies cut off while they add new drains, electricity disruption, hoardings along the pavements, big delivery trucks. cranes looking over you and blocking your view. mud on the pavement. Noise early in the morning. Noise late at night. Dust and dirt on your washing and your curtains and on your furniture and carpets. Workers wearing dirty clothes watching you as you walk past, sitting cross-legged on the ground eating take away food.

I've lived next door to constructions sites. I've met ex-pat wives who went home with the baby because the noise and dirt and stress was intolerable.

Horrid to live next door.  You won't be able to hold a party or rent out your property.

Author
Angela Lansbury, travel writer and photographer, author and speaker.

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Albanian alphabet and pronunciation and views on life



Story
I met an Albanian at Toastmasters. Smiling and good looking. Always smiling. I like Albanians.

He was a builder. Then I met another man. He was a plumber.

He asked me, "What do you do."

I said, "I am an author, and I teach English, and I'm learning other languages.

I asked the plumber, What's your language."

He said,"It's Albanian."

Hm. For once I was lost for words.

Problem
I don't speak one word of Albanian. He was ahead of me, speaking both Albanian and English, some French, a bit of Greek. He spoke my language fluently. But I was a teacher and could not speak one word of his language.

Answer
I could learn one word from him. I could get a free lesson.

Keep it simple. I asked, "Is it easy to read Albanian, if you speak English? Are the letters the same?"

Tips
"The Albanian alphabet? Yes, the letters are the same. But Albanian has more of them."

That sounds very Alice in Wonderland. I asked, "Please explain."

"The Albanian language has 36 letters, mostly the same as in English, but double letters are counted."

Ch sounds like Russian, looks like Russian, has a cedilla and pronounced ch as in the English word Chance.

SH as in should counts as one letter.

xh - pronounced J as in Jack.
For example:
uncle in English is written in Albanian as - xhaxhi - pronounced judge ee

th - a new letter. "A little th as in thing think, fifth."

dh - "a strong th as in the or this, themselves, leather".

What about sentence structure?

"I am reading a book:
un - i
yam
duke
ledur," says my Albanian friend.

I could not grasp that the first time, let alone remember it. Let's make life easy. I asked, "Which words are the same in both languages?"

"Many Words Are The same:
hotel
taxi
train."

Now, let's try some everyday word,s such as hello and goodbye, and yes and no, and please and thank you.

thank  you - f a l i  m i n d e r e t (sounds longer in Albanian). Sound like Ali but it start f a l i (memory aid for thank you, thank you, Ali, I can't fail FALI; mind / minder / et / tete.
hello
goodbye - l a m t u m i r Ă«

What does the double dot on the Ă« mean?
If you click on the sound symbol underneath the word at the bottom of the text box in Google translate you can hear that the Ă« sound like er, a short version of err.

To type the e with the double dot above, press down the e key on your laptop keyboard; up pops a list of possible accents - see that the one you want is number 4; continue to hold down the e key and with your other hand, your right hand, tap the number four key at the top of the keyboard. Release both fingers and you should see the e with the two dots. If you get an ordinary e, or double ee, you have mistimed it by holding or release one finger. Just try again.

How are you? Ok.
c u ok
mir - ok
t mir - you ok

"You ask about the whole family, your father ok, your mother ok and so on. So you hear, '... mir ... mir ...  mir?' "

They also use OK because they learn English as a second language in school, so no problem speaking to Albanians. They have similar words such as:
stress - stress

What about yes and no?
Yes - po
no - yo

How confusing. Both end with o, and the no starts with a ye like the English yes.

rr (rolled r)
r r u g is road or street

table - same as English and French

Story
My plumber said: "The school teacher of French in Albania made us write everything in French fifty times, but I never learned. If you don't want to learn, you don't learn. It was a communist time and we thought, 'we are never going to use it, so why waste the time?'

"I don't know why they taught it. You would be classed as a traitor if you said anything about foreigners. It was a communist country for forty years. You were scared to say anything. People got sent to prison.

"Now it's a democratic country. You can do anything. Learn anything. Since 1989. We changed then. 1985 or four, I don't remember exactly, the emperor, died. He was a friend of Lenin, Stalin, Tito of Yugoslavia. He was one of them, communist countries, all influenced by Russia or China.

"Now we have no influence from Russia. We don't get on with the Russians.

"We are run by Tony Blair."

What do you mean by that?

"He set the rules for us. The rules, and the borders we use now, were influenced by him.

"Albania is such a small country but an interest for everybody. It's bang slap in the middle of Europe.

"Tony Blair saved the Kosovans from getting slaughtered.  He sent the troops to stop the Serbians - or  rather the European Union, NATO, he sent them to stop the Serbs. In the mix he killed a lot of innocent people, too, but the idea was to stop the Serbs. And they did.

"Greeks, Serbs, they are still with Russia. That's the way it goes in Europe. Greeks and Serbs, friends with Russia. Cos the Greeks are scared of Turks. So they always keep friends with Russia."

"Why didn't you learn Russian at school?"

"Some other schools learned Russian. Other schools had different things. The year I was in school they just started, in around those years when we started to break off, 1986 or 97. I left home when I was 13 to work in Greece. We had no choice. In a communist country we had nothing."

"They controlled everything. They took the land off us. They give us each three thousand square metres as a home owner.

"You were not allowed more than one cow. If you had a second cow, they would take it away.

"You had to work for them. You could have potatoes, small things. They would sell you bread. You have to work for peanuts to buy bread from them. A very strict regime."

"Who benefited?"

"The government. They don't want you to be rich in any kind of sense. They want to control  you. We keep you fed, enough to survive, and that's it.

"If you said something against the leader, you'll be in prison next day. You have spies. Loads of spies. You never knew who was a spy. But if you said something, you would be in prison next day. Even in your extended family, you could not trust anybody. There must have been money involved, something involved. For me the regime was very bad. They never let you thrive. They want to lock you in a cupboard and this is what you are going to do."

One man's view.

Author
Angela Lansbury, travel writer and photographer, teacher of English and learner of languages.
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Friday, April 21, 2017

Light Relief - writing poems whilst travelling


Problem
How to pass the time during a delay? How to see the funny side? How to make good use of your time? I write comic poetry and when I remember and feel inspired I write poems about problems. I met a Singapore Airlines pilot at a toastmasters International meeting and said I would give him a poem, but our paths did not cross again. He was always away flying. However, for your entertainment, here's a new reproduction of my poem.

Answer
To be performed wearing a cap with gold buttons.

The Pilot Speaking
by Angela Lansbury

"This is your co-pilot speaking
I promise we're leaving on time
I know you feel like you're dying
Just breathe deeply, and you'll be fine ..."

"This is your co-pilot speaking
I'm sorry about the delay
If you look out of the windows
You'll see goat herds on the runway

"We don't usually tell you
When we see a snake on the plane
I lift my feet in the cockpit
Calmly sigh, 'Oh no - not again!'

"Whilst I am waiting for the vet
I announce, 'We're waiting for parts ...'
I send for vets - and two doctors
Mine quickly checks my waltzing heart!

"We know you've paid lots of money
We pretend complaints don't cause stress
Altitude makes food taste funny
Crew clean toilets, they do their best

"I have you enjoy a pleasant flight
A safe journey, a lovely day
Remember whilst you have a holiday
We're working, driving, smiling, all day."

Copyright Angela Lansbury
April 21 2017

Quick facts
Single animals or whole herds can get onto fenced or unfenced runways, especially in Africa.
Snakes on the plane have happened several times - either in passenger area or cockpit. Planes from some destinations are checked for stowaways - local wildlife which slithers in. Animals and reptiles and pets can also escape when carried officially or unofficially in luggage, or hidden under the passenger's clothes.

Snakes on a plane
Wikipedia:
The (movie) story is credited to David Dalessandro, a University of Pittsburgh administrator and first-time Hollywood writer. He developed the concept in 1992 after reading a nature magazine article about Indonesian brown tree snakes climbing onto planes in cargo during World War II.

Angela Lansbury, travel writer and photographer, author, speaker, entertainer.

Wednesday, October 5, 2016

The Secret of Finding a Seat - on trains


Finding a seat requires concerted action by the traveller, the train, bus or plane's number or seats and signs, and business hours and meetings. How can you increase your chances?

Finding a seat on a train should be simple. Live at the end of the line. Travel to the station when there's no traffic on the road. Travel on the train before or after rush hour. Just pick the nearest seat. Work early and leave early. Offices started work at ten and left at six, rather than nine to five like shops, to spread the load on the train and bus lines.

End of Train Line (UK)
When I lived in Edgware and Stanmore I was a happy traveller. I always got a seat into London.

The Return Journey
Coming home I would usually get a seat early on. Especially if I kept watching for people preparing to get off, packing up their belongings and looking alert, ready to leap up and out. I stood near them, ready to leap in.

Advantages of Last Stop
Once I fell asleep. I was woken by the station attendant whose job is to go along the train collecting newspapers and shutting doors - after waking the dozing drunks and tired travellers. That's the great advantage of living at the end of the line. You can't go past your stop. You might seem far away to visitors from the centre of the city, but at least you are easy to find. You can tell them, "Just stay on until the train reaches the last stop."

Cutting Staff Travel Time
The British Council offices were all on the Central Line. The offices were planned that way. The man who ordered the second building probably lived on the Central Line. His office was on the central line. Staff going from one office to another did not have to change trains and wait. It was less stressful for them. They could not get lost. It saved time for inter-office travel.

Seats On UK Trains
An article called The Seat on the Train by Hugh Graham in Britain's newspaper The Sunday Times tells you which stations give your greater chances of finding seats on commuter trains. Sometimes it is worthwhile spending five minutes driving to another station further out or in, to save a long time standing on the commute into London.

Reservations To and From Regions
When booking holiday trains to Wales or Derby, I try to get a reserved seat. Recently I was lucky to be near the exit. If there is a choice of seats, I might even abandon my reserved seat in order to take a free seat near the luggage stack at the exit.

Picking Seats
Unfortunately, unlike planes, where you can chose to be near a window or an exit, on trains when making reservations you often cannot pick the seat. If you book your holiday late, many seats are already taken, so neither you nor the office selecting your seat will have a choice.

Seats With Space
A seat in the middle means dragging your luggage a long way. Single seats near the doorway have room for your luggage beside you.

Seats With Tables
On the other hand, seats further in often enjoy the benefits of a table, for four. You have the opportunity to put down a laptop and work. You might also have the chance to chat to other travellers.

Watching Luggage
However, I do not want to leave my luggage in the rack at the carriage end and sit in the middle where I cannot see my luggage. Leaflets warn travellers to watch their luggage.

Theft
Tricks played on travellers include leaping onto the train before it goes, grabbing a piece of luggage and leaping off again. By the time the owner of the suitcase notices or gets up and rushes to the door, the train is moving again.

Carriage-hopping
Getting a seat on a busy train also involves watching the train as it comes in. If you have no heavy wheeled luggage nor multiple bags, and you see the end carriage has seats but the middle ones are full, you can run along the platform as the train comes in to leap into the last carriage before people start flowing along inside towards the empty seats.

Sometimes on a long journey, if I see lots of people standing at the door of the next carriage ready to exit, I will either run along inside to take a vacated seat, or leap out of my carriage and race along to leap in again and grab the empty seat. You have to be quick, to be sure not to be left on the next platform.

Success!
But, hey, the joys of sitting back and opening your newspaper and phone, or shutting your eyes. If going past your stop is one of life's worst travelling stresses, finding a seat is one of life's best travel successes.

Angela Lansbury, travel writer and photographer, author and speaker.